Among pre-wedding parties is the bridal shower. A bridal shower is an opportunity for a bride's loved ones to help her stock her new household with the essentials she might need. It's also a time for her to celebrate her happiness with the women she loves.
History of bridal shower
It is always nice to hear stories behind the things that we do. Here is what I found.
Years ago, the rules of etiquette were practically written in stone. Today, this is not the case. While the rules of etiquette can serve as a guide, the wisest course often is to follow your heart – inside, most of us know what the right thing to do. Let the following "rules" serve as suggestions when you are in doubt.
Who host a bridal shower?
Traditionally, the maid/matron of honor or bridesmaids host the bridal shower. But like anything else that was once written in stone, this rule is flexible. Couples are living in cities other than the ones they grew up in. They have built new lives and added a host of friends and colleagues to their lives. So nowadays it is perfectly acceptable to have a shower thrown by aunts, grooms family, college pals or other close family friends. Bridal showers take place two months or less before the wedding date, though usually at least two weeks in advance.
You will probably want to get the invitations out about 4 weeks in advance of the shower date, paper or printed invitations are the norm. However, today you could us sites like Evites for sending invitations. All those invited to the shower should be on the wedding guest list. It is poor etiquette to invite someone to the shower and that is not invited to the wedding itself. I have seen situations where the prospective guest understood why they could not be invited to the wedding and wanted to share with the bride at her shower, in a case like this you should send the invitation since it was initiated by the other party. However, not every woman invited to the wedding needs to be invited to the bridal shower. Even if a guest lives too far to make attending the bridal shower practical, it is still good etiquette to send her an invitation anyway
These are the people that should definitely receive an invitation:
· Mothers of the bride and groom
· Grandmothers/great grandmothers of the bride and groom
· Female Cousins
· Bridesmaids/female attendants
· Close friends of the bride and her family
· Close female business associates of the bride
You definitely should determine the level of formality when planning the bridal shower. That will determine, the invitaions, the decor and many items for the shower. Think about the bride first and foremost and the location where you wish to hosts the bridal shower .