Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Children in your Wedding
For some couples children are a big part of their lives; including them in their nuptials would never be a question. Here are some roles that you could give to those special little ones in your lives:
It is recommended that a flower girl be between 4 and 8 years old. Although cute, a child younger than 4 may be a small problem. They may love the idea of being in the wedding until the wedding day when they might be nervous or get distracted easily. However, you can make this decision based on the individual child. The flower girl tosses petals on the aisle right before the bride comes down the aisle. You can have as many as you want, although I would not recommend more than 3 or 4.
Ring bearers should also be between the ages of 4 and 8 years old. The same age rule would apply for the ring bearer as the flower girl. The Ring Bearer has the responsibility of carrying the rings down the aisle (not recommended that the actual rings be given to Ring Bearer). You may have one Ring Bearer for each ring. The Ring bearer may carry a pillow or a box.
Do you know an extremely responsible child that you would like to include in your wedding, this is an excellent role for that child. Appropriate age for a Gift Attendant would be 12 and up. They would be responsible the gift table. They would take gifts from guests and watch the gift table periodically during the receptions. They would also help to carry the gifts to the car after the reception.
Also known as Junior Bridesmaids or Groomsmen, this role is reserved for children too old to be flower girls or Ring Bearers. Recommended age would be between 8 and 14, anyone older could be a regular Bridesmaid or Groomsmen. Their responsibilities would only include going to the rehearsal and walking down the aisle on the wedding day. A Junior Usher, would assist in seating guests and distributing programs.
* After running it by their parents, ask the children personally. Ask if they would enjoy being in the wedding so that the experience would be wonderful for them as well.
* Keep the child up to date with wedding plans. You want to feel a part of and sharing could do just that.
* Make sure a child attends the rehearsal. Rehearsals will be more important for children than for adults.
* Remember to pick a special personal gift for each child in your wedding party. This will be a reminder of the important role they played in your special day.
* If possible and appropriate invite children to other pre-wedding festivities.
* Try to seat parents of young children near the front, if they get restless you can have them sit with their parents without an interruption to the ceremony.
* Have an activity bag available for the children at the reception. This will keep them entertained during the ceremony. This would be a good idea for any child attending your wedding.
Gifts: Click links below
Cinderella Carriage Ring Box
Silver Brocade Pillow
Flower Girl Dresses